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On this day 19 years ago, it was also a full moon in February.

I’ll never forget that day.

It was the day I married my beloved.

Being with Altazar always felt like coming home to me. To a deeper home than any I could have imagined. Soul-deep and eternal.

My unconventional heart had never dreamed of a white wedding – dress, church, flowers. Or any wedding, come to that.

But then I watched the movie Rob Roy.

When Mary McGregor said to her husband: ‘Do you know how fine you are to me, Robert McGregor?’ something changed inside.

Next day I said to Altazar ‘We could get married.’

He said yes.  :-D

The vision came. Go to a sacred place in nature. Create our own ceremony. Declare ourselves married.

I quickly knew where and when.

Full moon. February. Hill of Tara (an ancient sacred site in Ireland).

Okay.

Now the scary bit ...

It felt intensely vulnerable to share this vision with our families.

We thought about heading off somewhere with a couple of...

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Hi, I'm Rionach Aiken, visibility mentor and poetry alchemist.

I help visionaries - practitioners, coaches, creatives, change-agents to bring their voices into the world and to show up, to grow their visibility so they can share their message.

The poem I want to share with you today, I've chosen because I've spoken to so many people - clients, community members – recently who've really struggled with visibility, in terms of having a sense that they've shown up and been visible in the past and it hasn't gone well.

They've encountered criticism, projection, judgment - painful experiences - and it's easy to hide away, to retreat, to put up a shield and to think it's not safe to become visible.

Sometimes we show up and shine and are visible and vulnerable, and we still don't get the results that we might be looking for in that particular context. People don't engage in the way that we would like them to. And that's painful as well.

So this poem is for you if...

When you have to show up, speak up or share your message with others ...

... does it light you up?

... or is it a 'grit-your-teeth' job that has to be done?

Sometimes you'd rather do anything else than put yourself out there.

Getting creative with the work you love. Polishing and tweaking behind the scenes. Catching up on admin.

I get it.

I remember the first video I ever made. Tongue-tied and frozen. Trying not to cry.

My inner critic had a field day. Telling me how useless I was,

... how others would judge me,

... how I could never create the difference that was in my heart to make.

That kind of fear and self-consciousness is so painful. We'd do almost anything to protect ourselves from it.

Hence the procrastination, distraction, inertia, self-sabotage, indecision, blaming our circumstances, perfectionism, playing small, etc.

Yes, we've all been there. :-)

But then I experienced a breakthrough.

I had a mentor supporting me to create this video. She knew I loved speaking poetry.

...

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Start Close In

 

Start close in,

don’t take the second step

or the third,

start with the first

thing

close in,

the step

you don’t want to take.

 

Start with

the ground

you know,

the pale ground

beneath your feet,

your own

way of starting

the conversation.

...

Start close in,

don’t take

the second step

or the third,

start with the first

thing

close in,

the step

you don’t want to take.

 

David Whyte

This is a poem (a part of a poem) called Start Close In by David Whyte. I'm sharing this poem with you today because I want to talk to you about the strategies that you use to become visible, to become known, to get out there.

Hi, I'm Rionach Aiken, Visibility Mentor and Poetry Alchemist, and I'm here to support visionaries becoming visible. I work with coaches, practitioners, healers, change-agents, creatives, pioneers, leaders, to support you to become seen, known and valued, and overcome any visibility fears or...

How Did The Rose?

 

How

did the rose

ever open its heart

and give to this world all of its beauty?

It felt the encouragement of light against its being,

otherwise we all remain too

frightened.

 

Hafiz, translated by Daniel Ladinsky

from Love Poems from God, Daniel Ladinsky

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Hi, I’m Rionach Aiken, Visibility Mentor and Poetry Alchemist.

This is a poem by Hafiz and this poem really speaks to me about the support that many of us need to step into our true potential, and into visibility, into shining in the world.

I work with visionaries: with coaches, healers, practitioners, change-agents, pioneers, leaders. People who have a yearning and a calling to make a difference in the world.

And not just any difference, but a difference that is unique to them. They’re birthing something new. They have a sense of what the world needs.

But it can be a scary thing to do! To step out there with something new and become visible in the world. So...

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Hello and welcome to Poetry Alchemy Infusions, infusing you with the magic of poetry alchemy to ignite the visionary within, and to support you to bring those visions into visibility in the world.

Hi, I’m Rionach Aiken, visibility mentor and founder of Poetry Alchemy. You can connect with me online at my website RionachAiken.com, or connect with me wherever you find, where you’re listening to this right now.

The poem I want to share with you today is one that’s a big inspiration for me and has been since I first came across it. It’s called 'I Will Not Die an Unlived Life' and it’s written by Dawna Markova. It’s from her book I Will Not Die an Unlived Life. I’ll share the poem and then I’ll speak some more about it.

I Will Not Die an Unlived Life

 

I will not die an unlived life.

I will not live in fear

of falling or catching fire.

I choose to inhabit my days,

to allow my living to open me,

to make me...

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Hello and welcome to Poetry Alchemy Infusions, igniting the visionary within using the magic of poetry alchemy and supporting you to bring your vision into visibility in the world.

Hi, I'm Rionach Aiken, visibility mentor and founder of Poetry Alchemy. You can find me online at RionachAiken.com

Today I want to share with you a poem that I wrote in 2015, at the beginning of 2015. It was like a New Year's poem for me.

It's a poem that's very much about listening to your inner wisdom, your inner voice and the commitment that is required to follow that through. Often a fierce commitment. It's quite a scary thing to do.

So I want to share this poem with you today to honour my commitment to bringing my vision into visibility in the world through this new Poetry Alchemy Infusions podcast.

So here's the poem. It's called Vow and it's by myself, Rionach Aiken.

Vow

 

What if all were changed now?

What if the world opened at the touch of my pen

and laid itself...

(video transcript)

Hello and welcome to Poetry Alchemy Infusions, infusing you with the magic of poetry alchemy, to ignite the visionary within and to support you to bring your visions into visibility in the world.

Hi, I'm Rionach Aiken, founder of Poetry Alchemy and creator of Visionaries Becoming Visible. You can find me online at RionachAiken.com

So welcome, this is my very first Poetry Alchemy Infusions podcast, the first of many. I created this series of short poetry podcasts to share the power of spoken poems, which is something that I love to do. So to honor this new beginning the poem I want to share with you today is 'For A New Beginning' by John O'Donohue.

John O'Donohue is an Irish writer and philosophy, poet and priest. He's one of my Irish inspirations, and this is a poem that's very dear to my heart. It's one that I connected with in 2012 and it changed the course of my life. I came to it a time when I was really feeling off track and lost, and it reconnected me to my...

Have you ever felt so frozen with fear you couldn’t put yourself out there and just be yourself? Even though you had a deep longing to share, create, make a difference? It felt safer to stay in the shadows.

I get it.

Every woman has her own story of invisibility.

Here’s mine.

I was the little girl who disappeared behind the curtains when strangers visited.

I didn’t join groups as a child because I’d freeze with self-consciousness.

When I moved to a new, larger school for a year I was so shy I didn’t make any friends. I sat alone at break times with tears rolling down my cheeks.

Painful, right?

Even when I grew up I avoided career moves that threatened to put me in the spotlight.

My first business failed because I was too scared to put myself out there and market my services.

I had a successful career in education, but chose management roles that were less scary than teaching.

Rather than step into leadership, I supported others. I had the ideas. They...