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The Magic of Poetry

 

Poetry goes deep fast. It opens up sacred realms.

Poems came to me at crucial moments when I was struggling to step into leadership and helped me break through core visibility blocks.

  • When I was way off track, they brought me back to my soul's path.
  • They've enabled me to access my own knowing when I felt lost or confused, and guided me to take the right next step.
  • When I longed to find my soul’s purpose, they fuelled my desire despite my self-doubt, and called into being who I needed to be to take each next step.
  • When I struggled to take up space, they melted my resistance and completely shifted my energy so I could inhabit my leadership.
  • They’ve enabled me to create many spell-binding moments with groups, where we're captivated together into experiences of pure magic.

Many of us feel: 'Poetry is not for me.' Education may have taught you that it’s a complex puzzle that you often don’t understand.

But when you learn to embody a poem and surrender to your...

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Taking Up Space

 

It was 4 in the morning. I woke again with the familiar ache in my heart. A physical pain - tension, tightness, an inner pressure.

For years I asked myself, what is this? Why does this come up, night after night? Waking each day with a sense of dread in the pit of my stomach.

What part of me needs healing, holding? What is this deep longing inviting me into? Everything in me yearned to know.

This is what a calling feels like.

An insistent knowing in your heart and in your bones that what you’re living is not it. That there’s more you came here to do. That it matters.

And yet our yearning is met by a sometimes equal and opposite resistance, holding back, holding on.

Fear. What if it’s not real? What if I’m not good enough? What if it’s not safe? What if I’m rejected? What if no one sees me, hears me, gets me? What if I fail?

Can I really trust myself? Can I really take up space? Am I ready to truly commit to my knowing? Invest all my energies in...

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The Magic of Story with Kate Wolf

 

I just LOVED this deep dive conversation with the wonderful Kate Wolf about why stories are so powerful for communicating the depth and value of your work.

And we got to bring forth our magic and play with our wands! (Literally! You have to watch it! And this was totally unplanned :-)

Learning from Kate how to write transformational stories was a game-changer for my business.

It’s the most powerful way to invite people into your world and create magnetic connection with them.

As Kate says:

'Once Upon a Time, putting a shingle outside your door was enough to let the neighbours and passing villagers know you had fresh eggs to trade.

These days, with ‘the market’ existing not just in the local square but on every street and url imaginable, to sell your wares you need to stand out.

In a day-and-age where 'marketing' is now a verb, doesn’t matter how good a Coach you are, how ethical your hand-made lamps are, or how delicious and nutritious your cooking –...

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The Anatomy of Invisibility

 

I was four years old, sitting at the dinner table, tears rolling down my cheeks, my face wretched. Distressed by the cutting exchange of terse words. Feeling their anguish as if it were my own. As if I had no skin.

Then their frustrations turned on me: ‘Cry baby’. Mortified, I wished for the ground to open and swallow me. How could I disappear, become invisible?

Mostly I had my head stuck in a book, even as my siblings whirled noisily around me. My mother told me I had the gift of invisibility. I didn’t join any groups as a child - no Brownies, no Guides, no after-school clubs, no extra-curricular lessons.

I kept my head down and built my wall of quiet reserve.

For decades I avoided scenarios that would put me in front of groups. I didn’t share how I felt even with my closest friends. I’d built my wall well.

And if I did have to step in front of people - do some teaching, presentations, speaking - I was filled with gut-wrenching anxiety, sleepless...

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Poetry Alchemy: Speaking yourself into being

 

I didn't trust it for a moment
but I drank it anyway,
the wine of my own poetry.

It gave me the daring to take hold
of the darkness and tear it down
and cut it into little pieces.

- Lalla, translated by Coleman Barks

Have you ever come across an amazing poem, read it once or twice and then returned to life as normal?

Yep, me too.

Maybe you have sensed that a poem can offer you a much deeper transformation.

But perhaps you’re not sure how to fully enter the invitation, the delicious promise, it holds. Or feel you don’t have time to go deeper.

But what if it was simple?
What if it was a practice that didn’t take any extra time?

The right poem at the right time can be a powerful catalyst for change.

When you work deeply with a poem over an extended period, you begin to call in the new story that poem offers you.

In the beginning, the invitation the poem offers feels like a stretch.
Over time, you speak the poem into being through yourself.
And you speak yourself into...

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Radical Support for Your Vision

 

I sat by the hospital bed, his hand in mine, morning ‘til evening, day after day. (It was a different era!)

When not camping out in the hospital, I dealt with my CEO responsibilities, cooked healthy food to bring him, and dealt with my stress by decluttering cupboards.

I received daily messages of support from family and friends.
And I was still running around like a headless chicken. Doing everything myself.

After a few months, I reached the edge of burnout.

When people asked, I said ‘I’m fine’ and focused on my husband’s recovery instead.

I didn’t know how to ask for support.
I didn’t even know what to ask for.
I couldn’t think of anyone to ask.
It felt weak to ask for help. Vulnerable. Helpless.

My beloved was my main source of support. I was appalled to realise just how little I had invested in building my own support network.

Fast forward 6 years. I’ve so many wonderful support structures in my life now.

I’m so grateful...

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Sacred Visibility: inviting invisible help

 

To be human
is to become visible,
while carrying
what is hidden
as a gift to others.

To remember
the other world
in this world
is to live in your 
true inheritance.

- David Whyte, from What to Remember When Waking

So often I see coaches, facilitators and those who are at home in the invisible realms, struggle with conventional forms of becoming visible. 

I get it. I’ve been there. For decades. 

How about you?

Do you love facilitating deep transformational work, but find it hard to get in the zone when it comes to sharing your message? 

Perhaps you love holding an intuitive or healing space for others, and just wish people would find you so you could avoid the icky marketing stuff. 

Do you ever find yourself wishing that your messaging was as in flow for you as the transformation you bring to your clients or groups? 

How would it be to infuse your posts, stories, videos, blogs, emails, webinars, interviews with the deep wisdom that comes through when...

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Letting Go of the Inner Critic

 

How’s your inner critic? It can be the toughest critic of all. 

The fault-finder, the nit-picker, the nasty attacker that lives in our heads and automatically pops up to put us down. 

The one that shows up hour after hour, to tell us how little we know or have achieved. 

The one that sabotages our dreams and postpones our inspired actions. 

The one whose harsh voice tells us, ‘Who do you think you are to dare to do such things?’  

This is a deep one. 

So I’m bringing the magical vibrational medicine of poetry to offer a powerful antidote to your inner tyrant.

Why? 

Did you know that poetry can actually rewire our brain? 

'Neuroplasticity' means that our brain is adaptable. We can literally rewire our brains with our thoughts. 

Our brains love novelty (which is why online browsing is so addictive ;-). Novelty fires brain chemicals that create new neural pathways. 

Research shows that the language of poetry...

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Ditching The Critics

 

It is not the critic who counts:
not the one who points out
how the strong woman stumbles
or where the doer of deeds
could have done better.
The credit belongs to the woman
who is actually in the arena,
whose face is marred by dust
and sweat and blood,
who strives valiantly,
who errs
and comes up short
again and again,
because there is no effort
without error or shortcoming,
but who knows
the great enthusiasms,
the great devotions,
who spends herself
for a worthy cause;
who, at the best,
knows, in the end,
the triumph of high achievement,
and who, at the worst,
if she fails,
at least she fails
while daring greatly,
so that her place shall never be
with those cold and timid souls
who knew neither victory nor defeat.

- Theodore Roosevelt (gender changed ;-)

Have you ever put yourself out there, felt the harsh sting of critical words, and thought ‘I’m not doing that again’? 

Or had moments where, red-faced and tongue-tied, you wished the ground would swallow you up? 

Me...

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Share Your Transformation Stories

 

True story: 
I sat in my dressing gown, on my sofa, with a box of tissues, sobbing my heart out, all day. I was heartbroken - I felt like my dream of creating my own transformational business was slipping through my fingers. How could the universe give me this dream and then let me fail?

Same true story:
I was really sad. Deeply disappointed that no one signed up to my group program. I felt the universe did not support me.

Notice the difference?

We are wired for stories. Told right, they forge connection and deep empathy.

We remember how they make us feel. Because we’ve felt that way too.

If you're (or aspire to be) a coach, practitioner, facilitator or bringer of transformational change …

And you feel frustrated because people don’t ‘get’ the deep and magical work you offer …

I see you.

I see you struggling to communicate the true, life-changing value of what you offer in a way that really lands with your people.

Transformation work...

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